The purpose of this web site is to bring together the best, most inspired, insightful and creative ideas about how to have great relationships and suggest ways that single Latter-Day Saints can prepare for an eternal marriage. Wherever you are on that path, divorced, single, discouraged, enthusiastic, somewhere in-between, there are plenty of things here for you to ponder, pray about and try.

What I hope will make this site different is its clarity, simplicity, directness and harmony with the gospel of Jesus Christ. In John 8:32, he said; "And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free."  If we're going to succeed at having great, eternal, relationships that are "joy-full", we're going to have to know the truth about ourselves and each other and be able to talk about and act upon that knowledge in honest, plain and simple ways, You won’t find psycho-babble, technicalities, jargon or code-speak here.

Latter-Day Saints are a rare breed.  At the end of 2006, there were about 13 million world wide, that’s only two tenths of one percent of the world population!  In the United States, the number is a little higher, with 1.8% being LDS.  That can make the search for compatible souls difficult. But I think it’s worth the effort.

Within the LDS community the number of singles has been increasing.  The entire August 2007 Ensign was about being single.  What is really interesting is a figure concerning the divorce rate for marriages solemnized in the temple.  An article in the April 2000 Los Angeles Times stated that the divorce rates for Latter-day Saints who marry in the temple are 5.4% for men and 6.5% for women.

In 1976, President Spencer W. Kimball said that "about 90 percent of the temple marriages hold fast."  These figures strongly suggest that couples who’s marriages were solemnized in the temple have a higher rate of success, but the bigger question is WHY?  What we can learn and know about how to have a truly great marriage?  What spiritually sound and scientifically correct knowledge and behaviors contribute to healthy long term relationships? 

There’s lots of free “worldly” advice about relationships, much of which is confusing, contradictory and not in harmony with eternal principles. Most of what is available on the web reflects the popular world view. As Latter-Day Saints, we have  rather unique expectations about marriage.  Our beliefs on the duration of families, marriage, chastity and fidelity set us apart from most of the rest of the world.

A report published by the Institute for American Values called "Hooking Up, Hanging Out and Hoping for Mr. Right" observed that the lack of guidance and knowledge regarding how people date is unprecedented and problematic. There have certainly been many times I found myself wanting useful, practical, specific advice about dating and relationships. I suspect for a large number of single Latter-Day Saints the challenge of finding a suitable companion seems overwhelming. Even in cities where there is an abundance of single members and regularly scheduled social events, there seems to be a sense of frustration, that there has GOT to be a better way.

Over the past few years I've read dozens of books and articles about dating, relationships, psychology and sociology from a wide range of authors and perspectives. What you're getting here is the stuff I yellow highlighted - my “Best of the Best”. I left behind the things that were confusing or incompatible with the gospel. My hope is that it will help you get from where you are to where you'd like to be - having some fun along the way - getting you closer to God and an eternal companion.  I hope it motivates you to ask the source of all blessings for some insight into yourself and the people who you are trying to love and are trying to love you.

One suggestion before you launch; Take your time. The ideas here work best when you ponder and pray and reflect on them. There's no rush and no test at the end.

This site is a work in progress. It will change and grow as ideas and information are added in response to your feedback and input!  There are email and forum links further down this page. Please join in and participate. If you find the material here interesting and useful please let us know and tell your friends about it.

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